A few weeks ago I had the very unfortunate experience of getting rejected by a competitive pre-law fraternity. I thought I had made a personable impression in all of my three interviews. I had connected with all of the members I introduced myself to that I had already began to feel like a part of their family. But the only call back I received was a rejection voicemail. It wasn’t as if this fraternity had a pledge limit, they only accepted students whom they liked. Why didn’t they like me? What was wrong with me? I hid from social interaction in a small state of depression and self-doubt. But after a week, I snapped out of it. I wasn’t doing myself any good. There was nothing wrong with me, I have many accomplishments to be proud of and many more to come. But I could use room for improvement, next time I apply for anything I wanted to make sure I would be more than qualified. And so I began to redefine my mindset. I would like to share the secrets of my come-back with you. Because I know with the right mindset, you will be more than capable of achieving anything.
1. Accept yourself. How do you expect other people to have confidence in your capabilities if you don’t even have any confidence in yourself? Once you realize that you do have potential then others will realize it too. Never doubt yourself-that is the worst thing you could do for yourself. We all have flaws. We all have problems. Love yourself as you are and you will live a long, happy life. This brings me to my next point.
2. Stop complaining. If you can help it, then stop complaining about it. To stress about something doing you no good. There’s no room for wallowing or self-pity. If you fail, do not be discouraged. Keep trying. Get rid of your negative, pessimistic mind set; it will only hinder you. Ask yourself what you find yourself stressing or complaining about and do something about it. No excuses!
3. If you have a problem, fix it. Simple as that. . If you are unhappy with your body then get in shape. If you are struggling with a subject, do whatever you can to grasp it; seek tutoring. If you aren’t athletically capable enough, practice. If your boy/girl-friend is abusive, leave him/her. If you never finish your work on time, have better time management. There is always room for self-improvement, and it rests entirely on whether you are willing to accomplish it.
4. Become your own self-fulfilled prophecy. What kind of person would you like to be in the future? Be that person. What sort of life would you like to live? Go out and live it. Assuming your goals are for the most part realistic, do not listen to anyone who tells you can’t do it. They are not you. They do not know you. And they underestimate you.
5. Don’t set goals; write a to-do-list. You will not be successful unless you’re hungry for it. You have to want it. You have to be determined, dedicated, and motivated. You will attain your goals; it’s not even a question.
I hope you take these steps to heart. Because they have brought me to where I am today and will take to me to self-actualizing my dreams someday. I may not have gotten into that pre-law fraternity but I am no longer discouraged. With or without it I will still go to law school. I will join other pre-law societies with likeminded people that will support one another, all the while gaining experience and becoming more professional. Do not fret, there is always room for improvement.